April 25, 2013 by 43andfatfree and RobertRoyston.net
So I had a whole dysmorphia blog I wanted to post about, how what we see in the mirror is different then what others may see… Blah Blah Blah. But that will have to wait because now I have to vent!! LOL
I was in the gym today and a newbie to the gym asked if I liked the personal trainer I have… I said he’s amazing and told him about my weight loss journey. I even showed him my “Heavy pics” then he said… wait for it… “You were so lucky to start fat, its so much easier to get into shape then when you are skinny! I mean there are only so many calories a day I can eat!” WHAT!!!!!! Now mind you he is 6′ tall 180, and says he has a 32″ waist so he isn’t like waif skinny… he is what most people would call “Normal” He went on to say, “Thank God you dont have my problem, where my high metabolism prevents me from gaining mass easy” again WHAT!!!!!! I thought I was being punked… this is surely a prank… but no he was for real. It was all I could do not to lose it on him! I did say, “Well I will have to disagree with you sir. It is much harder to lose weight then to gain in my opinion for many reasons, but here are 2. 1) most people are over weight because of emotional reasons i.e. depression eating, boredom eating, stress eating… Most skinny people (Not all so dont jump on me about anorexia and so on) aren’t skinny because they have emotional issues that stop them from eating. 2) The world doesn’t judge skinny people the same way. Its so hard to even start the weight loss journey when just going to the gym wondering what people will think about how you look and what your wearing is stressing you out so much that you don’t wanna go to the gym you wanna go to Mc’ds. Or walk your skinny ass on the beach nobody says a word. But OMG the beach is such a scary place for the over weight!!!”
Well after saying all this, all he could say was “We have to agree to disagree, I don’t buy into the emotional weight theory its just laziness in my opinion” WHAT!!! (ok thats my last WHAT) I will finish buy saying I hate stupid people… I will also add it is hard for some small people to put on weight and I don’t want to minimize their journey at all… Its just different and all you have to do is look at society and the media. Fat stigma and issues are perceived differently then skinny stigma.
Im done for the day